The Feng Shui Bedroom

Attract a new Partner or Strengthen Your Relationship

Written by: Carole Provenzale,
Certified Feng Shui Consultant
Feng Shui Long Island
http://www.FengShuiLI.com
FengShuiLI@aol.com 

There have been SO many articles about exactly the right thing to do to add the Principles of Feng Shui to your bedroom to attract a new partner into your life or to strengthen an existing relationship and many of the principles are the same.  After many years of practicing, here’s what I suggest for your bedroom to help enhance it the Feng Shui Way:

I am sure you’re all familiar with the thought process of “think in twos” and this is true.  If you have a special person already and want to keep it that way, use pictures of just the two of you in your bedroom in several different areas.  If you’re married and have a large wedding picture, I recommend putting it over the bed.  It is the last thing you see before going to sleep and restoring for the night and reminds you nightly of your commitment to each other.  Even if you have a family, pictures of only the two of you should be in the bedroom. 

You may also put two like objects together.  The Chinese love using Mandarin Ducks who mate for life, but it can be anything that you have two of, including just two flowers (which represent blossoms).  Do make sure they are approximately the same size as you are seeking a partner, not a child!  If you’d like to strengthen this cure, tie them together with pink ribbon which is the only time Pink (instead of Red) ribbon is used.  It must be CUT in increments of 9” but may be tied to any length. 

When something is going particularly well in your life and you’d like to keep it that way such as a wonderful relationship which you may already have, it is time to “weigh it down.”  That just means that we don’t want to use moving objects, rather something that will keep you together and anchored.  It can be something as simple as a paperweight near the objects or picture as long as you have your Intentions clearly in mind that you want to keep this wonderful relationship in place.

What about if you just haven’t found the perfect person for you?  Is it actually possible to Feng Shui one into your life?  I’ve seen it happen over and over.  When using Feng Shui Principles, please remember it is not so much the changes you are making but the Intention you are sending out and up that helps us attract what we’d like back to us.  Intention comes first, the Energy of that Intention follows which is why they say Like attracts Like.  Your thought process and positive thinking are a large part of this; if you’re quietly thinking that you’ll make the changes but never meet anyone, that’s exactly what’s likely to happen.  Stay Positive!

My suggestion for attracting your special someone is to cut a silhouette out of someone and add it to one of your pictures.  Put a list on the back of this silhouette the qualities of someone that you are looking for that are truly important to you.  It may be honestly, loyalty, faithfulness---the qualities you absolutely insist a partner of yours would have.  Some clients ask me about their looks.  My answer is always the same and that (to me) is that looks are more on the inside of someone then their exterior. 

Watch your mirrors in the bedroom.  We typically ask that you don’t have mirrors placed in the bedroom at all but if it is necessary, remember those mirrors are very powerful.  They can make you (or a partner) feel “pushed out” rather then “pulled in” to the space.  They should not be directly across from you as you wake up (getting hit with your image when you are not at your best is not the best way to embrace the new day) and because they do intensify everything they reflect, make sure they reflect something absolutely lovely.  If your mirrors are directly in front of you, try deflecting them by adding some silk flowers on each side so you don’t see yourself.

Use Pink as your accent color in the bedroom but I don’t know many people that are in tune with it for an entire room, except for children.  I know bright colors are sometimes frowned upon in the bedroom where you do rest and restore for the next day, but Red is a color of Fire and Stimulation, something that might be well placed in a bedroom actually.  How about thinking of one wall to paint in a red or burgundy color to promote that?  It’s certainly not enough to keep you up all night but adding a stimulating color in the bedroom can promote good relationships!

The most important things to keep in mind for couples in a bedroom are this:   it is shared space and devoted to the both of you.  Whatever changes you make in that room should be equally decided upon if you already have a partner.  Both of you working together with different ideas, new colors and making decisions might be something that brings you closer. That in combination with the Transformations you receive from these changes and you can’t fail!